Wednesday, April 29, 2009

A "touchy" subject...

Maturbation...THAT'S what I'm talking about. That's your fair warning...if you're offended by it, this is your chance to pack your things and head home. Thanks for stopping by!

I'm not just talking about masturbation and how I dig it the most. Uh-uh. This is on the subject of teaching kids about masturbation. Allright...another fair warning and I may have offended even more of you than before. So, thanks for trying to stick this one out with me. I appreciate the effort.

Anybody left? Oh, just you in the back...allright Pervy Perverson, let's do this thing. Shall we?

From what I have gathered...boys pretty much figure this stuff out on their own. Obviously, I have to teach them not to do it at the dinner table...and let them know that there are appropriate times and places to do the deed.

This is a-whole-nother ball game when dealing with girls.

I grew up in a home where it wasn't spoken about...AT ALL. Which led me to believe that it was wrong and that if I had anything going on down there, I was going directly to hell. Immediately. On the spot. Period. I don't want my kid to go through that. I don't want her to be ashamed of something that's natural, and normal, and healthy!!

Plus, I have a huge problem with the whole double standard on the issue. Everyone knows why teenage boys take long showers and why they have crusty socks hidden under their beds. It's what boys do, it's normal. For some reason, it's just not the same for girls.

Maybe it's an anatomy thing. Boy parts are just dangling there...easily seen and easily investigated. Girl parts are a bit more mysterious...a bit more complicated.

I think that if my girl had a healthy relationship with...uh, herself, then she would have more confidence and power. By power I mean...power to say HELL NO to the pubescent pressures of boys.

After Oprah's show on this subject, a ton of people wrote in to her that they were "appalled" that people would teach their young girls about this. That it was "wrong" and a "sin." Personally, I think these people are "appalling," but, what do I know!

So, what do you think? I guess it goes back to the big debate. Will providing this information empower our children...or, will it give them enough rope to hang themselves?


Tim said...

Leave it up to you to come up with a topic like this. LOL

I dont think that kids should be conditioned EVER for any reason that there actions will mean they are going to hell. Whether we believe that there is a hell or we dont, a kid should NEVER have to face such fears.

As for the deed, Im not sure we should be teaching our kids how to do it or anything about it for that matter. I think it is a natural part of aging and self discovery myself.

I dont see the double standard though. I never heard anyone say that it was ok for boys to do it, or not ok for girls to do it. Your right thought that no one talks about it. This just goes back to the age old issue of avoiding what makes us feel uncomfortable. I say face your fears. Dare to be different! Crash through the walls of things that make you feel uncomfortable. there is somehting very rewarding to this. That is why everyone should do the vlog thing. It is unknown, scary, and for sure uncomfortable.

I agree with you on this.


Kameron said...

I grew up going to Christian school all my life so it was a big no no. My mom being slightly unconventional would try to bring up verbotten topics and I would just say "Oh my god mom, shut up". I think your kids have a fighting chance since they don't have the double standard of someone preaching in their face all day for 13 years!!

kristi said...

I have actually had to address this with my daughter already. I did it, my sister did it, my daughter does it, and so does my niece. It is natural. It is to be done in private, but it is natural!

Alicia W. said...

I just linked the shit out of your blog on my blog.. :o)

Tatman said...

All I can say is that there is a time and place for EVERYTHING. Knowledge is power, and if you teach your daughter the knowledge you have learned then she will gain that power.

Denise said...

Be right back, I forgot I have a date with B.O.B. and the handy dandy showerhead.

Unknown said...

Well, i really wanted to see that episode of Oprah but it kept getting interrupted by the news about all the fires! I agree that a mother should talk to her daughter about it! But I for one have never participated in the deed, I have no desire. But it is a natural thing and daughters do need to know that. My mother also didn't give me any talks about ANYTHING,and b/c of that my biggest goal as a mother with a daughter is to have the relationship w/her that I never had w/my mom. And to open those lines of communication that I never had w/my mom. Good Luck w/that! I will be coming to you later for advice since your daughter is older than mine! Thanks for the discussion topic!

Helene said...

Ooooh, I missed that Oprah episode! You know, my parents never talked about that with me...I had no clue about it until I was much older.

My feeling is that every child is gonna be curious and I don't want my kids feeling ashamed of their bodies. If I do happen to see them touching themselves, I just tell them it's something we do in private. They seem cool with it...they don't seem embarrassed and I prefer it that way.

Rassles said...

Yeah, I didn't even know we could masturbate, that it was even possible. It had never even occurred to me, and thinking about it all throughout college and everything? Still makes me insanely uncomfortable. Weird, huh?

Katrina said...

I agree with the Oprah show. You need to teach your kids about sex, masturbation, the whole 9 yards...(or 9 inches..he he heee). I think the best way to approach is with honesty, humility, and a whole lot of humor. Too many parents instill a horrible sense of shame about sex and natural desires that many adults never get rid of. As an alumni of the same awful Christian school that Kameron went to, I saw too many people get their sex lives ruined...forever!